Job Hunting

Finding a job might turn out to be easier than I expected. If all goes well I'll be employed by Holiday Inn cleaning and doing laundry and being revoltingly domestic. But I'm actually pretty happy with it. Compared to what I could be doing that sounds just fine with me. They hire a lot apparently and my mom knows someone who works there who has put in a good word for me. I may even go apply tomorrow. I'm anxious to have something to do.

I really miss college. This is the first time I've ever missed school and it will definitely be the first time I'll be happy to see it start again. My therapist recommended that I look into the possibility of majoring in social work rather than sociology since it would likely increase my chances of getting a job. I really don't know... I think I will take an intro to social work course though to see how I feel about it and to get an idea of the kinds of careers sociologists and social workers have to see where I might want to go from here. Unfortunately the ones being offereed in the fall are full, but there's no rush since I'm still getting through the required credits. I am taking sociology of gender roles, though. That could be very mentally stimulating or it could be really, really irritating. We'll see.

Day one of the break went all right. I only cried once. Other than that I've just been annoyed.

Elsa

This is Elsa. She was my cat for thirteen years. I miss her...

Blue

I actually had a pretty good day. Therapy went well (if a little bit difficult today), and nothing bad happened. I have nothing coming up tomorrow so I can just read all night if I want to. I should be really happy, I guess.

I made a goal for myself a few days ago not to let my relationship affect my mood so much, but I know that's what has me sad. It makes me feel dependent and pathetic... but then I guess I should, because I am. One of my biggest goals in going to therapy was to develop more of an identity and a life separate from him. That sounds good but it wasn't for good reasons. I had hoped that if I become more independent and he saw that I didn't need him so much he would start to miss me and maybe it could be him pursuing me for once. I know that's unhealthy and I know if this were a good relationship ideas like that wouldn't enter my mind. I'm steering away from that goal lately. This needs to be for myself. I just feel incredibly lonely.

I've felt lonely for almost three years, really... ever since he first left for boot camp. But it was different before. I used to be lonely and depressed because I longed for him so much and missed what we had so intensely, but now I feel lonely for affection in general. I think about being with someone else... no one specific, just that faceless, nameless, imaginary man that I pretend is holding me when I'm crying at night and can't sleep and that I daydream about when I don't know what else to do. God, I feel pathetic. This isn't right... it shouldn't be like this. I know that but I don't know what to do about it. I miss him, but I don't miss him. I miss what we used to be, and that isn't enough. The end feels inevitable, but I'm so afraid of it.

I know this situation and the whole relationship probably deserves a lot more explanation, but I just don't feel up to it tonight. Maybe tomorrow. Oh, and for all intents and purposes my boyfriend's name is J.

First Stanza of "Endymion" by John Keats

A thing of beauty is a joy for ever:
Its loveliness increases; it will never
Pass into nothingness; but still will keep
A bower quiet for us, and a sleep
Full of sweet dreams, and health, and quiet breathing.
Therefore, on every morrow, are we wreathing
A flowery band to bind us to the earth,
Spite of despondence, of the inhuman dearth
Of noble natures, of the gloomy days,
Of all the unhealthy and o'er-darkened ways::
Made for our searching: yes, in spite of all,
Some shape of beauty moves away the pall
From our dark spirits. Such the sun, the moon,
Trees old and young, sprouting a shady boon
For simple sheep; and such are daffodils
With the green world they live in; and clear rills
That for themselves a cooling covert make
'Gainst the hot season; the mid forest brake,
Rich with a sprinkling of fair musk-rose blooms:
And such too is the grandeur of the dooms
We have imagined for the mighty dead;
All lovely tales that we have heard or read:
An endless fountain of immortal drink,
Pouring unto us from the heaven's brink.

My Friends are Back!

Three of my friends from high school are home from college for a little while. I should probably explain that I only stayed in school through my sophomore year before I started being home-schooled. I had actually been asking my parents since middle school if they would let me leave school and be home-schooled, but they always said no. Starting in sixth grade I was having panic attacks at school, and when I got home I would lock myself in my room and cry and wonder what was wrong with me and how I could possibly do it again the next day. I would miss as many days as I could get away with by pretending to be sick or "missing" the bus since I was alone in the mornings and obviously couldn't drive yet. I could go on and on about middle school, but that's for another day.

One would think that the more time I spent in school the easier it would get, but for some reason that wasn't the case. By my sophomore year I was crying at school almost everyday and could barely sleep. I would make myself throw up to avoid going to school, and lie about having thrown up there to get sent home. My parents finally decided I needed a change, which I've always appreciated, so I was done with high school.

Anyway, back on topic... I haven't seen these girls in a few years, so this is pretty exciting. I became friends with them in fourth grade and if it weren't for them I doubt I would have tried anything new or been the least bit courageous throughout school. I wanted them to think I was more daring than I really was and so I joined art club and band (I was pretty much a beast at the clarinet for a few years), which were really interesting. I messaged one of them on facebook a while back saying that I miss her, hoping maybe she was home. She texted me a few days ago and said that she and two of my other friends wanted to see me sometime this week before they go back. That was unexpected and awesome. I reeeeeally hope it happens and goes well >.<.

Obligatory Introduction

I never know how to write about myself, but in the event that anyone decides to read this blog they should probably know a little bit about me. I'm a nineteen-year-old sociology major and English literature minor at Miami University in Ohio. My dream is to be a novelist. Nothing written but fanfiction thus far, unfortunately. I'm also an occasional photographer (all the pictures you see here are mine unless I mention otherwise), but I live near some woods that I think anyone could go into and capture something beautiful.

As the blog title suggests, I'm quiet and live largely in my head. It goes beyond that, actually; I have social phobia and other problems with anxiety and depression. A large part of this blog will be about my struggles with that because I've found it's something few people understand and it's hard to talk about it with anyone in my personal life. I feel incredibly restricted by my timidity because I think I'm an intelligent person, but my fear and insecurity keep me pretty silent in the real world, so I thought a blog would be a great outlet and a way of reaching out. I'm not really sure how this will go or if I'll receive any response, but I'm feeling optimistic : ).